tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5677504786349906999.post2108218708848352918..comments2024-03-06T06:33:18.841-05:00Comments on Guinness on Tap: Taking It PersonallyAustenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13004088333430762406noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5677504786349906999.post-5199797335976546962013-07-12T17:04:26.156-04:002013-07-12T17:04:26.156-04:00It's really hard for me not to take it persona...It's really hard for me not to take it personally sometimes. It's also hard for me to find a happy medium between letting my horse do whatever he wants and picking a fight. SheMovedtoTexashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01062200290148658096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5677504786349906999.post-62079795510123204332013-07-11T22:45:20.551-04:002013-07-11T22:45:20.551-04:00I find Guinness to be the only horse I do this wit...I find Guinness to be the only horse I do this with. It's so strange how they can get under your skin. It really is as if we are an old married couple!<br />Good luck with Speedy!Austenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004088333430762406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5677504786349906999.post-21370797138825848362013-07-11T22:42:38.532-04:002013-07-11T22:42:38.532-04:00Sarah, those are great tips too! I'm certainly...Sarah, those are great tips too! I'm certainly not one for rewarding a misbehavior, so I understand where you are coming from with the question about taking a break. <br />Typically, if I'm walking away from an exercise it's not really due to a disobedience on my horse's part at that point. More me recognizing that we aren't communicating and it's stressing us both out. <br />I'll have to start reviewing my tools, though. I love it!Austenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004088333430762406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5677504786349906999.post-9492581870898430792013-07-11T19:55:33.991-04:002013-07-11T19:55:33.991-04:00Great post. Its so true. So many stressors in life...Great post. Its so true. So many stressors in life and sometimes it just comes out when you're at the barn, especially after a long day at work and you're hungry and pissy and tired. And sometimes we take it personally because, well, it's personal to us!<br /><br />For the walking strategy though, depending on the root of the issue, could that not be accidentally rewarding the horse for bad behavior? One idea (pretty sure it's from Daniel Stewart's Ride Right psych clinic) is to do a mental checklist of the tools in your toolbox as your tacking up or warming up, so they are more at the ready if he should, say, take the wrong lead. That way instead of a "reboot" its a "safe mode start up." Just an idea.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15925650148327532110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5677504786349906999.post-25266948037705348452013-07-11T18:46:46.363-04:002013-07-11T18:46:46.363-04:00Wow. Well said! I laughed at how you characteriz...Wow. Well said! I laughed at how you characterized some of your "arguments" with Guinness: <br />*"Why won't you just do it, you ass?!" I've been known to yell.* <br /><br />Have you been spying on me because I have said those exact words many, many times!<br /><br />I really like your strategy for developing patience (walk breaks to cool off and refocus combined with doing a known good). I am definitely going to be incorporating that into my rides with Speedy. The funny thing is, I already do that with Sydney. When I feel him tensing about an issue, I frequently back off, remind him that he's doing a good job and then give him confidence by doing something he does well. Why can't I do that with Speedy? Because with Speedy, I feel he SHOULD ALREADY GIVE IT TO ME! Like you said, we've worked on it a billion times already.<br /><br />Deep breath ... I definitely need some of your temper management strategies for Speedy G. Thanks for writing such a thoughtful and practical post. I can't wait to starting implementing some TM strategies tomorrow. :0)<br /><br />Bakersfield Dressagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05571487914424695283noreply@blogger.com